When it comes to growing your youth group and the students in it, events serve a great purpose. They can be a non-threatening way for students to invite friends to church or build up students that want to grow in their faith.
Many youth leaders find they have a lot of ideas for events but don’t always know what steps to take to make them happen. These tips should help youth leaders get the ball rolling.
Figure out your purpose
Youth group events serve different functions, so you need to know your goal. If you are trying to use this event to reach out to students that don’t come to church, you will want the main selling point of your event to be the fun time you’ll have.
If you are trying to build up students and you want it to be a serious time, you want to sell the event on that. This does not mean fun events can have nothing serious in them or vice versa, but your promotional pitch should be based on your goal.
Just remember that they key ingredient to getting people involved in your event is to find a reason “Why” they would want to attend or contribute in some manner. Once you have this reason, it is much easier to organize your event.
Identify A Great Speaker
Having a speaker who comes to your event is going to be critical to its success. The keynote speaker is someone who is going to really make sure that your audience is paying attention and learning something from it.
Of course, the biggest challenge of finding a speaker for your event is going to be determining your budget and date. “Before you contact a speakers bureau, you need to make sure you have clearly outlined your budget and date” says Dan Smith of the website Keynote Speaker. “I have worked with many organizers who don’t have this in place and it wastes a lot of time for both parties.”
We also spoke with Emily Miller, the editor for the website Motivational Speakers and here is what she suggests when hiring a professional speaker:
Step 1 – Determine your theme
Step 2 – Set a budget
Step 3 – Have a date
Step 4 – Have a venue
Once you have these four critical elements for your event, then you can contact a speakers agency and work with them on booking a speaker.
Don’t be afraid to copy
Many youth groups before you have planned events of varying levels of success. Don’t feel you need to reinvent the wheel. Laser tag is still fun even if you didn’t invent it.
Look at what other groups around you are doing or ask your students what they find fun. Not every event will be perfect or original, but they will often get the creative juices flowing and reveal to you what your students think about different things.
Construct a basic outline
When you have your idea, begin to figure out how it will flow. Make sure you answer questions like where students will be dropped off, what are your start and end time, and how much your event will cost. A helpful practice is to run through the event from beginning to end in your head. This way, you can see where the weak areas are along the way. As you start making an outline, don’t expect it to be perfect right away. It’s easier to think against an idea than it is to try to be perfect on your first attempt.
Play the roles
As you think about your event, try to look at your event through different lenses. How will the new student feel? If the answer is confused or left out, you have an area you need to address. Ask yourself the questions the protective mother would ask, mostly about safety and leadership. Answering those questions will find the weak areas in your event and address them before anything can go wrong.
– Low self esteem (lack confidence and low self worth)
– Lying (being manipulative and dishonest)
– Mood swings (dealing with lots of ups and downs)
– Out of control (behaving irresponsibly and making poor choices)
– Overweight (struggling with eating disorders)
– School (doing poorly in school and apathetic)
– Technology & Video Game Addiction (spending too much time on their phone or computer)
– Unmotivated (behaving very lazy or irresponsible)
And much more.
Before speaking with Sam I was truly at a loss and had no idea how I was going to help my son (16 years old). He had been ditching school, caught doing drugs, depressed, and was hanging around with the wrong crowd. Not only was I worried, but I felt guilty that I failed him as parent. I know a lot of his problems had to do with not having his father around.
After my sessions with Sam I instantly felt this relief come over me where for the first time I knew that everything was going to be okay. Once he began talking to my boy, I could see that his attitude completely shifted. I am so grateful for the work he does. He is a true healer! – Linda
Whatever issues you or your child are facing right now, they most likely stem from one of these six root causes:
1. Unresolved Emotional Issues
Whether your teen is angry, sad, frustrated, confused, or moody, when he or she has unresolved emotional issues they will be the driving cause of poor behaviors such as being defiant, disrespectful, disobedient, rebellious, depressed, apathetic, argumentative, aggressive, antisocial, and so on. This is where your child can become a “troubled teen” and “out of control”.
2. Lack of Communication Skills
When your teen was a baby, he or she would cry for what they wanted. As a child, they would just demand for what they wanted and you would remind them to “say please”. But when they became a teenager, they are expected to start speaking like an adult but never learned how.
Because they are still accustomed to speaking in a direct or demanding way, this can cause conflict where they begin to shut down and stop talking to you. They have now learned that they can’t “get what they want from life” because when they try, they are received in a negative way.
Once this happens, the communication lines are broken and they become very frustrated, aggressive, or withdrawn.
3. Broken Relationship
At some point in your relationship, your child has lost respect for you and no longer listens to you. This is why many teenagers start “talking back”, begin “lying”, are “ungrateful”, become “hateful”, and are constantly fighting with you.
4. Poor Habits & Lack Of Discipline
If your child becomes lazy, unmotivated, and irresponsible, it is because they have established a “rhythm” of poor behavior where they have formed bad habits and lack structure and discipline.
5. Purpose & Meaning
One of the main causes of why so many teenagers exude poor behavior is because they lack purpose and meaning in their life. Without it, they will continue to focus their energy on “destructive” behavior rather than “constructive” behavior.
6. Lack of Confidence or Low Self Esteem
If you find that your child is withdrawn, shy, introverted, insecure, timid, and doubts themselves, it is because they have not learned to believe in and trust themselves. When this happens, the world is a scary place for your child where you can see them act out in “strange ways” as a call for help.
Your teenager is going through their “formative years” right now which is going to have a profound impact on the rest of their life.
How you choose to help him or her now will determine their ability to become a healthy, happy, and responsible young adult.
Because you have lost your ability to communicate with them means they are no longer listening to you.
This is where I can help.
As your teen counselor not only can I help your child address their issues, but I can also help you rebuild your relationship with them so that they will want to talk to you when things become difficult again.
If you want your child to listen to you or do as they are told, then you are going to need to help them deal with whatever is causing them pain and suffering.
My main goal is to “play detective” where I figure out exactly why your teen is having issues and then help them resolve it so that they can move their life forward.
I can also work with you in “parent coaching” sessions where I can teach you how to better relate with your child.
Get the help that you need now so that you can…
Regain control of the situation so that it does not get worse
Ensure your child is getting the support they need to become a healthy and happy responsible young adult
Have the peace of mind knowing that you are doing your best so that you don’t feel guilty
Feel confident knowing your child and the situation is getting better
Create a healthy and long lasting relationship with your child
First 30 minute consult is free
$125 per session
How This Works
Step 1 – We have a consult between you and I only so we can speak freely.
Step 2 – I have one paid session with your teen to establish trust and rapport and get them to buy in to working with me.
Step 3 – We book 4 sessions at a time. They can be weekly or every other week
1. How are payments handled?
Credit or debit through PayPal. You do not need a PayPal account.
2. Do you accept insurance?
3. How are sessions held?
Phone, Skype, or Google Meet.
4. How long does it take to see results?
You will notice some results right away just by the fact I am able to connect with your teen. After that, it really depends on the situation.
5. Where are you located?
I am in North Carolina (EST) and can work with anyone in the world.
6. What happens if my teenager does not want to talk to you?
A. Put them on the phone and let them listen to me. I will do all the talking. 90% of the time they open up because I know what to say to them.
B. If they fall in the 10% and still don’t want to talk, then I can at least coach you on how to deal with them.
If you would like to schedule a free consultation to learn more about how I can help you, please contact me below:
Are they out of control, lost, depressed, angry, unmotivated, or behaving poorly?
Have you lost your ability to communicate with them?
If so…I can help.
My name is Sam Miller and as the founder of the Parenting Teenagers Academy, my mission is to provide parents the best tools to help them raise responsible, healthy, happy, and successful young adults.
For the last 15 years, as a teen counselor and coach I have been working with many troubled teens to help them address their emotions, solve their problems, and communicate more effectively so they can get back on track with their life.
I have worked with teenagers who are depressed, angry, addicted to drugs, defiant, have anxiety, withdrawn, lost, rebellious, lack motivation, irresponsible, and more.
Beforespeaking with Sam I was truly at a loss and had no idea how I was going to help my son (16 years old). He had been ditching school, caught doing drugs, depressed, and was hanging around with the wrong crowd. Not only was I worried, but I felt guilty that I failed him as parent. I know a lot of his problems had to do with not having his father around.
After my sessions with Sam I instantly felt this relief come over me where for the first time I knew that everything was going to be okay. Once he began talking to my boy, I could see that his attitude completely shifted. I am so grateful for the work he does. He is a true healer! – Linda Hale
Here is how it works…
We have a free 30-minute phone consult to see if I would be a good fit.
After this call I recommend that we schedule two sessions with your child where my job is to earn their trust and get them to buy into wanting to work with me.
After these two sessions, then we can proceed with more ongoing sessions where I provide you updates via email so you can see how we are progressing.
1. How much does this cost?
$100 per 45-minute session.
Credit card payments are managed via PayPal.
2. How are sessions held?
Phone or Skype.
3. What happens if my teenager does not want to talk to you?
A. Put them on the phone and let them listen to me. I will do all the talking. 85% of the time they open up because I know what to say to them.
B. If they fall in the 15% and still don’t want to talk, then I can at least coach you on how to deal with them.
4. How long does it take to see results?
This can vary depending on your circumstances. However, I guarantee after our first session you will feel much better knowing that things are moving in the right direction.
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